[Video Visibility] Why Do Facebook Lives?

When I look at what’s ‘out there’ especially when it comes to Facebook lives, I see hundreds of talented businesses ‘having a go’ at Facebook lives. 

Once upon a time I would have gone for 110% perfection, then over time I went in the complete opposite direction and just went for it, just had a go, but I slowly found that that dishonoured my clients as much as waiting for it to be perfect. Back then, I got the help I needed to strike the balance and learn to do it well, not perfectly, but done well and in a relatable way. 

Then. And only then…

After that I implemented, practised, implemented again, took action, did it and sometimes didn’t, (which was a total nightmare by the way) and held myself accountable to others around me.

I know that Facebook lives look casual, but before I got to be casual, I had to get to what I wanted to share and why, here are three questions which helped

~ what about what I do makes me different? 

~ what about how I do it makes me different?

~ why does what I do make a difference?

As a fairly intelligent and well informed business owner who knew what I wanted, I felt like I was being pulled in different directions, trying to brand myself and my message ‘properly’. 

During my time working with one coach, I even came to the conclusion that because others are doing it (and seemingly successfully), I should too.

The problem was that I lost myself, my message and what I was really about, when I asked myself those 3 questions up there, I realised something very clearly. 

Although Facebook lives are a small part of what I offer, it’s an important part, but here's what I realised…

You are far too brilliant to ‘have-a-go’, and so are your clients and what you share. 

Jenny Kovacs ~ Visibility Specialist PS What I also realised, was that true brilliance didn’t want to wait, and the most important thing about sharing is that you MUST do it as YOU not me.

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The truth about Shaa Wasmund

The truth about Shaa Wasmund 

In the online educational world be it personal development, business development and even spiritual development, there is a lot of BS!

I've had it in mind to write this post for some time, but worried about looking ' 'bottom kissy', however one Sunday morning, I read something which Made. Me. Seethe.

But.

I've never been very good at pretending to be an innocent bystander and watch something play out which doesn't agree with my values, principles or integrity.

And to boot, it's the reason why at least 80% of people who choose to work with me give the reason of not wanting to stand out as "Fear of what people will think about them or say about them and for one person 'do' to them".

So here's when Shaa Wasmund update her Facebook profile

I posted some words and a picture, it didn't feel like I'd said enough

So here's what I really wanted to share …

If "Integrity" is what you do when no one is looking"

Then here's what Sháá did when no one was looking.

First let me give you some context.

I run the relatively small Facebook group which at the time had around 200 people. I love sharing freely via Facebook live and every Friday (and Wednesday) I would pick a suitable topic for the VIBErs and share away.

When I took a few days break in September, I wanted to be able to unplug and spend time with those closest to me and I realised that this would affect the regular Friday broadcast. I had one of those "if-I-could-choose-anyone-in-the-world-to-do-this-in-my-place-who-would-it-be?" moments and Sháá instantly sprang to mind.

I don't claim that Sháá and I are best buddies or that I know her deeply, but what I have seen of her and what I do know of her with our own interactions doesn't warrant a snide comment or dig especially on social media, especially when a person doesn't take the time to see what's someone's about or why they're doing a thing.

To be completely honest in my world, every has the right to be seen, to be heard and not be dismissed even if we think they're talking rubbish, but why oh why do we have to do it with such venom?

Anyway, I've been to a number of Sháás events taken part in her programmes and been a part of her community ever since 2013 when I first heard her speak.

She's a busy woman, she works bloody hard, travels a lot, gives of herself and her time in so many ways.

All While being;

~ A mother

~ A three times published author

~ Responsible for promoting names like Chris Eubank, and brands such as Dyson

~ The proud owner of an MBE

~ A successful and profitable business owner

Insanely serious about getting fit

~ An early riser

So when asked by me without MBE or published books (yet), whether she would be able to do a Facebook live for my couple of hundred tribe as opposed to her, multiple thousand strong tribe what do you think she would say?

All on a day where she started her normal 5 AM start, did a trans-Atlantic Facebook live with someone else who is based on another continent, and had to attend a parents evening for her son later in that afternoon, what do you think she would say?

She could have said, "I'm too busy sorry", "I just don't have the time" or 1001 other things, but you know what?

She. Said. Yes.

We agreed it would be 20 minutes but 45 minutes later Sháá was giving, giving and giving some more.

So to anyone accusing somebody that they don't really know in such a way, without basis or using discernment, I can 100% say, I have seen no evidence of that in the time I've been around Sháá.

… and just in case you're wondering, I'd type this for whenever I saw this type of subtle online chastising of someone who needed it and trust me Sháá doesn't 'need' it.

Too many people see, hear or feel something and keep quiet and I wanted to remind those reading this that Sháá shows up and makes real a difference. That's something for me to continually learn from

"Integrity" is what you do when no one is looking" and no one was looking but you still did it.

Thanks Shaa from the bottom of my heart (and I expect from some of those VIBErs who watched too)

You're awesome

Jenny Kovacs | Visibility Specialist

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See what Shaa shared last week (eternally grateful to you Sháá, you rocked 🙏🏾) 

An Easy Way To Get Out There Online & Offline

Thank You

Thank you for being here, whether you realise it or not, you're already making a difference.

Many times when I look on social media, I see post and hear from people just like you that they either love or loathe it, it's a similar story when socialising professionally or networking in the flesh.

Do you wish you loved connecting on and offline so much that you actually get to meet people?

Today I'd love to show you exactly how to get visible, raise your profile and describe what you do without posting links, thrusting business cards, or being removed from online groups for spamming.

Your work really matters: please share what you do with other Visibility VIBErs if Facebook floats your boat, to do that now click here

Here's a great way to introduce yourself

1. Greet the reader in a 'real you way', I often greet people I know with 'hiya' strange but true or hi, this is especially true in online interactions.

Face to face at meetings or meeting new people, I'll still say hi, in a more corporate setting I'll say hello, pleased to meet you but NEVER good morning, afternoon etc or I come across as wooden and weird!

How do you greet people you meet online and in the flesh? 

2. Give your name or nickname, I'm definitely a Jenny and only Jennifer if I'm in trouble (or you want to get my attention).

If your name is difficult to pronounce let them know how to pronounce it properly, say it slowly if face to face or type it phonetically if in a group online. 

I usually announce that I'm Jenny Kovacs at event's or when meeting people, they know how to pronounce my surname then, it's "Co-Vac-s" but with a 'K'

What do you prefer to be called?

3. Tell them where you're from are you in an online group where you're now based in Thailand but are originally from Manchester? Maybe you're over in America but spent time in Europe as a child. 

These conversation starters give a person something to talk to you about and helps to build some rapport, even when you're speaking to them face to face.

When can you next use this nugget?

4. Without adding your website, page or blog give one or two short lines about your business, no one has time to read pages and pages of what you do, and to be honest people don't care THAT much. If they want to know more they'll usually ask.

I inadvertantly shared a Facebook live I did with another group I'm in, I forgot that as well as sharing the gems in the LIVE I had invited people to watch something else over on my page, this is just as bad as adding a website link or spamming someone else group. My bad... I removed it as soon as I realised - whoops!

Now, don't fall foul of being a business card thruster! When you're meeting people at networking event's or seminars etc, DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT push a business card into their hand, it's not cool and it's not clever! Either wait until you're asked, or ask, can I share my business with you, with a honest reason why. (and be prepared for the person to say "no thanks".

Be honest, have you done this?

5. Let people know what attracted you to the group whether live or online, this is a great way to open up the conversation in the flesh or engage while online. Let them know the value you can give and/or gain, (without adding links to your 'stuff or card thrusting)

Want some practice? 


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Jenny Kovacs | Visibility Specialist

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The truth about giving up!

I’ve spent the last few months decluttering, searching deeply, asking important questions from myself and my life both personally and professionally. What I realised, is that there was one main thing I had to do, what was that?

I had to…  

Give up. 

Give up …assumptions. 

Give up …wasting time. 

Give up …seeking approval. 

Give up …complaining (still working on that one). 

Give up …spending time with people, places or things which don’t light me up. 

That last one, has led to this piece, but let me say a little about the others first. 

Assumptions ~ That others have it better, easier, by chance, entitlement or through something I assume I don’t have. 

Wasting time ~ You’re likely bored hearing about the 5am stuff, but it’s been huge for me and even more huge thanks to Shaa Wasmund for this golden technique. 

Seeking approval ~ checking with anyone else other than myself before doing anything, this is like kryptonite to confidence. 

Complaining ~ about situations, events or occurrences especially complaining to a person who can’t put it right or do anything to alleviate or resolve my complaint. 

Initially, “Give up spending time with people, places or things which don’t light me up” , looks pretty harsh, but here’s what it actually meant for me.

I decided this summer that I wanted to majorly declutter, I’ve decluttered before but this time I felt compelled and started from a place of, “How does the person who is x,y,z live, act or be? I started to look at my belongings and as I picked the items up, I asked myself a simple question, I asked myself how that item made me feel? The answers which came back were surprising. 

You see, when you look at items in that way, you experience the overdue memories held, times when things ’should have been’, the clothing which when you wore it, made you feel less than, and the places you revisit which made your heart sink. That top I couldn’t wear comfortably without my bra straps showing and that favourite piece which had a little hole in it which I spent the whole time trying to disguise. 

The books which sat on my shelf, got moved around from the marital home, into the separated and newly single pad and the really costly storage unit they lived in in between. The designer purse, a gift from bygone people, the copious notebooks filled with detailed notes, big dreams and careful plans, the pairs of shoes, everywhere especially the 10+ pairs in my car, which had itself become a storage unit and stark reminder of a life I no longer lived, a position I no longer held, a sector crippled into collapse, a reminder of the redundancy as my role became a victim of the economic financial ‘crisis’. 

The bit that others don’t always get or think about though, are the people… 

That final one, “Give up spending time with people, places or things which don’t light me up”

Initially “Give up spending time with people, which don’t light me up” looks pretty harsh, but here’s what it actually meant for me

We all know at least one person who can be either negative, spiteful, embarrassing, energy draining or unsupportive and we just don’t feel great around them, yet it’s common for people to choose to stay connected with those people in life and online and it was some of those traits I looked at with the filter of “how does the person who does x,y,z live, act or be?

Here’s the rub.

If you’re spending time with people who are negative, spiteful, embarrassing, energy draining, unsupportive or something else, you’ll feel these things more often at a time when it's likely you want to feel differently. When you’re stretching and looking to do new things you want to surround yourself with people who will cheer you on, support you and are completely in tune with what you’re looking to achieve. If not, you’ll find your confidence, tenacity, positivity, and will, being challenged. Sometimes, it’s ok to take a step back while staying in relationship with them, it's also important to know when to vet what you share with them too.

If they’re so negative and don’t get that stepping back piece, that’s ok too, you don’t need to absorb what’s not going to support you, and there’s no need to spend time or energy correcting, judging or 'fixing' them.

During the last round of decluttering, when I realised that my car mostly sat parked on the side of the road in London, was filled with old memories of an old lifestyle, and didn’t fill me with joy.

I gave that up too.  

Once you're ready to step up and be even more visible there's a whole heap of people who are ready to support you, including me! Who do you want to be? 

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[Monday Motivation] Your Secret (and Silent) Affirmation!

Including a way to "check yourself before you wreck yourself"

Because whether you think you can or think you can't, you're right! ~ Henry Ford

Watch this weeks video to discover common silent affirmations, how they can affect you and how to spot them!

Click the picture below to watch the recording!

Recognising the stigma attached with a brand new week, often Mondays are met with dread, a feeling of overwhelm and a sense of being stuck.

Not the best way to set yourself up for the day, let alone the week!

So in 2008, I found ways to send motivational messages around the office to lift people up. In 2010 when I started my business, I was really keen to keep this up as a service to those who wanted it. 

Today's Monday Motivation uncovers those things you silently tell yourself you can and can't do all in under 10 minutes!

Activate your ability today... To spot what stops you and starts you. 

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Jenny Kovacs ~ Speaker, Coach, Trainer  

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[Monday Motivation] How To Do Things Differently

Doing it differently

"To do things differently, ask things differently" ~ Jenny Kovacs

In 2008 I recognised the stigma attached with a brand new week, often Mondays were met with dread, a feeling of overwhelm and a sense of being stuck or in a grind.

Not the best way to set yourself up for the day, let alone the week!

So I found ways to send motivational messages around the office to lift people up. In 2010 when I started my business, I was really keen to keep this up as a service to those who wanted it. 

Today, I hope to bring the motivation to life, by creating the 10 minute space for you to activate your ability to today... Stop putting up with stuff!

____________

This week, I want to start by asking you a question, well two really... 

What are you tolerating? 

Or put another way, 

What are you putting up with?

These questions are especially relevant, if you have big dreams, big plans, big ambitions to do the things in life we love, and this week I've heard a lot of different people, some are friends, some are coaching clients, all people who want to make a change to something in their life. They want to do something different, but somehow have felt like they can't. 

"To do things differently, ask things differently" ~ Jenny Kovacs

"To do things differently, ask things differently" ~ Jenny Kovacs

This week, I invite you to write this down:

W.W.I.D.D.N.T.

But what unearth does that mean?


This question both empowers and creates new possibilities all rolled into one. So if you have an end goal, big dreams, big plans, big ambitions or even a strategy to execute to get things done in your professional and personal life.

Whatever you've done before, if it hasn't quite worked in the way that you wanted it to, then this question is like the alchemy of questions to do things differently without forcing yourself!

And in a bid to purely acknowledge the elephant in the room, obviously in the last few days we’ve heard a lot of different people, referencing Brexit. So you’ll be pleased (or not), to know that this weeks post has very little to do with that, I thought we could all use a breather to get back into our individual lives.  

"To do things differently, ask things differently" ~ Jenny Kovacs

About W.W.I.D.D.N.T. what does it mean, and why is this a question of new possibility? 

I explain more in this weeks Monday Motivational video, you'll also hear a context in which it was used and brings this to life.

I then recommend taking just 5 minutes of pure focussed attention to write down the answers on paper in a journal, a piece of paper or even the back of a envelope! Write it down, it's really important.

W.W.I.D.D.N.T means;

What Will I Do Differently Next Time

Watch this weeks video where I share my own personal experience back in 2010 and you can transform that sinking feeling of when you think you’ve done something ‘ wrong’. Over the years this has also been uber effective in training others to create opportunities, allowing executives to exceed through coaching and moving things forward when I’ve been tempted to wallow.

Take any scenario where you want to explore more possibility or results and ask this vital question, do remember that this is effective when things go ‘right, not just ‘wrong’

Let me know how this question helps you.

"To do things differently, ask things differently" ~ Jenny Kovacs

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Jenny Kovacs ~ Speaker, Coach, Trainer 

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