The truth about Shaa Wasmund

The truth about Shaa Wasmund 

In the online educational world be it personal development, business development and even spiritual development, there is a lot of BS!

I've had it in mind to write this post for some time, but worried about looking ' 'bottom kissy', however one Sunday morning, I read something which Made. Me. Seethe.

But.

I've never been very good at pretending to be an innocent bystander and watch something play out which doesn't agree with my values, principles or integrity.

And to boot, it's the reason why at least 80% of people who choose to work with me give the reason of not wanting to stand out as "Fear of what people will think about them or say about them and for one person 'do' to them".

So here's when Shaa Wasmund update her Facebook profile

I posted some words and a picture, it didn't feel like I'd said enough

So here's what I really wanted to share …

If "Integrity" is what you do when no one is looking"

Then here's what Sháá did when no one was looking.

First let me give you some context.

I run the relatively small Facebook group which at the time had around 200 people. I love sharing freely via Facebook live and every Friday (and Wednesday) I would pick a suitable topic for the VIBErs and share away.

When I took a few days break in September, I wanted to be able to unplug and spend time with those closest to me and I realised that this would affect the regular Friday broadcast. I had one of those "if-I-could-choose-anyone-in-the-world-to-do-this-in-my-place-who-would-it-be?" moments and Sháá instantly sprang to mind.

I don't claim that Sháá and I are best buddies or that I know her deeply, but what I have seen of her and what I do know of her with our own interactions doesn't warrant a snide comment or dig especially on social media, especially when a person doesn't take the time to see what's someone's about or why they're doing a thing.

To be completely honest in my world, every has the right to be seen, to be heard and not be dismissed even if we think they're talking rubbish, but why oh why do we have to do it with such venom?

Anyway, I've been to a number of Sháás events taken part in her programmes and been a part of her community ever since 2013 when I first heard her speak.

She's a busy woman, she works bloody hard, travels a lot, gives of herself and her time in so many ways.

All While being;

~ A mother

~ A three times published author

~ Responsible for promoting names like Chris Eubank, and brands such as Dyson

~ The proud owner of an MBE

~ A successful and profitable business owner

Insanely serious about getting fit

~ An early riser

So when asked by me without MBE or published books (yet), whether she would be able to do a Facebook live for my couple of hundred tribe as opposed to her, multiple thousand strong tribe what do you think she would say?

All on a day where she started her normal 5 AM start, did a trans-Atlantic Facebook live with someone else who is based on another continent, and had to attend a parents evening for her son later in that afternoon, what do you think she would say?

She could have said, "I'm too busy sorry", "I just don't have the time" or 1001 other things, but you know what?

She. Said. Yes.

We agreed it would be 20 minutes but 45 minutes later Sháá was giving, giving and giving some more.

So to anyone accusing somebody that they don't really know in such a way, without basis or using discernment, I can 100% say, I have seen no evidence of that in the time I've been around Sháá.

… and just in case you're wondering, I'd type this for whenever I saw this type of subtle online chastising of someone who needed it and trust me Sháá doesn't 'need' it.

Too many people see, hear or feel something and keep quiet and I wanted to remind those reading this that Sháá shows up and makes real a difference. That's something for me to continually learn from

"Integrity" is what you do when no one is looking" and no one was looking but you still did it.

Thanks Shaa from the bottom of my heart (and I expect from some of those VIBErs who watched too)

You're awesome

Jenny Kovacs | Visibility Specialist

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Grab your free visibility raising download in the group, watch the visibility raising videos and connect with other VIBErs 

See what Shaa shared last week (eternally grateful to you Sháá, you rocked 🙏🏾) 

An Easy Way To Get Out There Online & Offline

Thank You

Thank you for being here, whether you realise it or not, you're already making a difference.

Many times when I look on social media, I see post and hear from people just like you that they either love or loathe it, it's a similar story when socialising professionally or networking in the flesh.

Do you wish you loved connecting on and offline so much that you actually get to meet people?

Today I'd love to show you exactly how to get visible, raise your profile and describe what you do without posting links, thrusting business cards, or being removed from online groups for spamming.

Your work really matters: please share what you do with other Visibility VIBErs if Facebook floats your boat, to do that now click here

Here's a great way to introduce yourself

1. Greet the reader in a 'real you way', I often greet people I know with 'hiya' strange but true or hi, this is especially true in online interactions.

Face to face at meetings or meeting new people, I'll still say hi, in a more corporate setting I'll say hello, pleased to meet you but NEVER good morning, afternoon etc or I come across as wooden and weird!

How do you greet people you meet online and in the flesh? 

2. Give your name or nickname, I'm definitely a Jenny and only Jennifer if I'm in trouble (or you want to get my attention).

If your name is difficult to pronounce let them know how to pronounce it properly, say it slowly if face to face or type it phonetically if in a group online. 

I usually announce that I'm Jenny Kovacs at event's or when meeting people, they know how to pronounce my surname then, it's "Co-Vac-s" but with a 'K'

What do you prefer to be called?

3. Tell them where you're from are you in an online group where you're now based in Thailand but are originally from Manchester? Maybe you're over in America but spent time in Europe as a child. 

These conversation starters give a person something to talk to you about and helps to build some rapport, even when you're speaking to them face to face.

When can you next use this nugget?

4. Without adding your website, page or blog give one or two short lines about your business, no one has time to read pages and pages of what you do, and to be honest people don't care THAT much. If they want to know more they'll usually ask.

I inadvertantly shared a Facebook live I did with another group I'm in, I forgot that as well as sharing the gems in the LIVE I had invited people to watch something else over on my page, this is just as bad as adding a website link or spamming someone else group. My bad... I removed it as soon as I realised - whoops!

Now, don't fall foul of being a business card thruster! When you're meeting people at networking event's or seminars etc, DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT push a business card into their hand, it's not cool and it's not clever! Either wait until you're asked, or ask, can I share my business with you, with a honest reason why. (and be prepared for the person to say "no thanks".

Be honest, have you done this?

5. Let people know what attracted you to the group whether live or online, this is a great way to open up the conversation in the flesh or engage while online. Let them know the value you can give and/or gain, (without adding links to your 'stuff or card thrusting)

Want some practice? 


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She is the creator of the Visibility VIBES™ system, a tried and tested method that helps business owners and employees to promote their strengths through what they say to the people around them and the clients they are trying to find. 

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The truth about giving up!

I’ve spent the last few months decluttering, searching deeply, asking important questions from myself and my life both personally and professionally. What I realised, is that there was one main thing I had to do, what was that?

I had to…  

Give up. 

Give up …assumptions. 

Give up …wasting time. 

Give up …seeking approval. 

Give up …complaining (still working on that one). 

Give up …spending time with people, places or things which don’t light me up. 

That last one, has led to this piece, but let me say a little about the others first. 

Assumptions ~ That others have it better, easier, by chance, entitlement or through something I assume I don’t have. 

Wasting time ~ You’re likely bored hearing about the 5am stuff, but it’s been huge for me and even more huge thanks to Shaa Wasmund for this golden technique. 

Seeking approval ~ checking with anyone else other than myself before doing anything, this is like kryptonite to confidence. 

Complaining ~ about situations, events or occurrences especially complaining to a person who can’t put it right or do anything to alleviate or resolve my complaint. 

Initially, “Give up spending time with people, places or things which don’t light me up” , looks pretty harsh, but here’s what it actually meant for me.

I decided this summer that I wanted to majorly declutter, I’ve decluttered before but this time I felt compelled and started from a place of, “How does the person who is x,y,z live, act or be? I started to look at my belongings and as I picked the items up, I asked myself a simple question, I asked myself how that item made me feel? The answers which came back were surprising. 

You see, when you look at items in that way, you experience the overdue memories held, times when things ’should have been’, the clothing which when you wore it, made you feel less than, and the places you revisit which made your heart sink. That top I couldn’t wear comfortably without my bra straps showing and that favourite piece which had a little hole in it which I spent the whole time trying to disguise. 

The books which sat on my shelf, got moved around from the marital home, into the separated and newly single pad and the really costly storage unit they lived in in between. The designer purse, a gift from bygone people, the copious notebooks filled with detailed notes, big dreams and careful plans, the pairs of shoes, everywhere especially the 10+ pairs in my car, which had itself become a storage unit and stark reminder of a life I no longer lived, a position I no longer held, a sector crippled into collapse, a reminder of the redundancy as my role became a victim of the economic financial ‘crisis’. 

The bit that others don’t always get or think about though, are the people… 

That final one, “Give up spending time with people, places or things which don’t light me up”

Initially “Give up spending time with people, which don’t light me up” looks pretty harsh, but here’s what it actually meant for me

We all know at least one person who can be either negative, spiteful, embarrassing, energy draining or unsupportive and we just don’t feel great around them, yet it’s common for people to choose to stay connected with those people in life and online and it was some of those traits I looked at with the filter of “how does the person who does x,y,z live, act or be?

Here’s the rub.

If you’re spending time with people who are negative, spiteful, embarrassing, energy draining, unsupportive or something else, you’ll feel these things more often at a time when it's likely you want to feel differently. When you’re stretching and looking to do new things you want to surround yourself with people who will cheer you on, support you and are completely in tune with what you’re looking to achieve. If not, you’ll find your confidence, tenacity, positivity, and will, being challenged. Sometimes, it’s ok to take a step back while staying in relationship with them, it's also important to know when to vet what you share with them too.

If they’re so negative and don’t get that stepping back piece, that’s ok too, you don’t need to absorb what’s not going to support you, and there’s no need to spend time or energy correcting, judging or 'fixing' them.

During the last round of decluttering, when I realised that my car mostly sat parked on the side of the road in London, was filled with old memories of an old lifestyle, and didn’t fill me with joy.

I gave that up too.  

Once you're ready to step up and be even more visible there's a whole heap of people who are ready to support you, including me! Who do you want to be? 

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[Monday Motivation] Going Underground  

...this week the stuff in our heads

In 2008 I recognised the stigma attached with a brand new week, often Mondays were met with dread, a feeling of overwhelm and a sense of being stuck.

Not the best way to set yourself up for the day, let alone the week!

So I found ways to send motivational messages around the office to lift people up. In 2010 when I started my business, I was really keen to keep this up as a service to those who wanted it. 

Today's Monday Motivation uncovers 5 things which secretly stop us...

What better time to boost motivation than on Monday's and if the message resonates well with you, or you feel it's for someone you know, please share it with your colleagues, friends, employees or family, in fact anyone who looks like they could use a smile. 
 

Just know Monday motivations have been created especially for you since 2008!

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This Weeks Monday Motivation:

 

Go for it in 5 easy ways...

Today we uncover underground ways to be motivated.

A) Clarity on what we want
B) Promising ourselves the best
C) What happens when we put the barriers up (without even realising) 

Click to Watch this weeks video In todays Monday Motivation, you'll hear:
 

A weird story about a train in Cardiff!

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AND 

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Are YOU Going Through It?

Today had a s-l-o-w start...

If you think that things are perfect for everyone else but you, please know you're not alone!

Despite having been awake really early, I'd been plagued by all sorts of of rubbish, and things seemed to happen REALLY slowly.

When I say stuff, that stuff could include things like;

lack of sleep

computers crashing

friends who need comforting

rubbish times

heavy heads (and hearts)

massive to-do lists

poorly children

out of order ex’s

demanding timeframes

to busy-i-tis

personal problems

health scares

naughty children

cancelled plans

family rows

bad hair day's

my-boss-doesn't-understand-me days 

Insert yours _____________ in the blank here!

The list is endless!

So for all of you who need it, here are some things to do or be.

1. Be gentle on yourself 

Beating yourself up verbally, only makes matters worse, and inflames an already delicate situation, cut yourself some slack, give yourself a break and ask yourself, would you speak to a small child like that? Likely not!

2. Absolutely know that "this too shall pass" 

Virtually everything in life is temporary, so it will end and it will pass!

3. There's always tomorrow

You might just need the break, this is often how we know, when we refuse to stop

4. Know that tomorrow is another day

It'll will still all be there and you'll function better having slept on it

5. then take some time out, yes really. 

Go for a short walk, take a break, go to the gym, grab a drink or even lock yourself in the loo for 5 minutes!

So what now?

Once you're feeling differently and it has passed, take a moment to write down the life that you want and how you'll choose to feel if it were to happen again. 

PS I'm not going to pretend to know it all, in fact, I am going to invite you to add a nugget of advice of your own  in the comments below, if you're feeling s-l-o-w or you want to cheer someone else up. 

I know they'll want to hear it, and could really need it right now. 

Keep on being incredible and happy

Jenny Kovacs

Jenny Kovacs | Coach. Trainer. Speaker

Jenny Kovacs shows outstanding people how to be visible, make a difference and stand out to those who need them. 

The creator of the Visibility VIBES™ system, a tried and tested method that helps people to promote their strengths through what they say to the people around them and the clients they are trying to find, so you get seen, get heard, get noticed, in a good way, your way.

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